I am the undead

Halloween is tomorrow and all my Bitmojis are zombies. Sending my son a “Have a great day” zombie Bitmoji this morning made me realize I am in real life, the undead. I’m alive physically but before I was one with My Creator, I was dead. Dead spiritually - meaning I was separated from the life flow- unplugged - spiritually lifeless! When I got on my knees and asked God to take over in 2000, I became un-dead - colors were brighter, smells were stronger, my mind was clearer! I know the real zombie fans will say I don’t understand zombie culture and I agree, I don’t! But I’m totally jacking the word undead! Even if just for Halloween!

Desperate to enjoy your kids?

Get your shoes on NOW! I have told you a million times! Don't hit your sister! Stop whining! Why won't you listen to me??!! Sound familiar?

Are you tired of feeling like you are fussing and fighting with your kids all day long? Exhausted emotionally and desperate for a change? Wouldn't you love to spend quality time with your children?

Can you dream with me for a minute - like Dr. Seuss's Oh the thinks you can think we listen to on our Dr.Seuss App - about a day when your kids are excited to see you and want to spend time with you? Can you start to imagine yourself as a magnet that your kids are drawn to and untangle those frustrating thoughts? Can you let them fall to the ground now and mentally wipe the slate clean. Even if just for a moment, stick with me here!

If your kids were not yours - step outside the busyness of everyday life - can you put your magnifying glasses on and search for one good behavior or quality about your children? Do they love learning? Are they good at running? Are they an expert at a game? Are they tech saavy? Whatever you have to dig for - FOCUS very intently on the good that is in your children. Now start a list of those things and blow them up! Talk about them to your children - talk about them in front of your children to other adults. Act like you have won the lottery every time they obey or complete a nice gesture. Let them see how much you appreciate that good behavior and make it a habit to celebrate successes. What you focus on - you attract more of! It is hard to resist the natural draw of someone who is talking good about you (i.e. the power of social media).

What we have a tendency to do as humans, is focus on the negative our kids are doing and then make it bigger and bigger by telling others and rolling it around and around in our minds. Take those same habits and simply shift the focus to the positive instead of the negative. I'm not saying you ignore the behaviors that need to be corrected, but let's make sure we stick to the old 3-to-1 ratio; 3 positive comments for every negative one!

You Got This!!!

Hidden Doors

I have been sleeping beside this piece of furniture for almost a week now in my extended family’s home and just realized that it had this hidden side door literally facing me as I slept. God has hidden doors inside of Him he wants you to seek out. 

They could be accelerators or shortcuts to future promises, they could wisdom keys that navigate you smoothly through rough waters or decisions you have to make. It could be inventions or business ideas that elevate you to new levels authority. It could be just what you need right now! Dig into the Lord like a crab burying himself in the sand to find shelter and help from the pounding waves of life! He’s ready to take you on an adventure! 

Revelation 3:8 - See, I have set before you an open door, and no one can shut it

Revelation 3:20 - Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with me.

CONTROL- I like to have a lot! -Janet J.

Isn’t it funny how we grasp for, pant after, grovel to control anything in life - even as elusive as it is? After joining Codependant Anonymous meetings, I have come to realize any control I think I have is really an illusion. Try it-think of something you think you control. Has it ever NOT gone the way you would like it to? Even my bodily functions like using the bathroom don’t listen to my pleas of waiting eight hours while I travel!
This need to control can come from many sources - mine came from emotional pain. I just wanted to do all I can to guarantee I wouldn’t have to suffer the way I have suffered in the past. It seems like the more I tried to avoid that kind of pain, the more came to me. Like Job once said “The thing I feared the most has come upon me”.
I am in a season of the Lord untangling the weeds of my beliefs. Especially beliefs about myself in my core. I have started tracing negative thoughts to their source by asking ‘why’ a lot and find most are rooted in fear of pain and a miserable attempt to control the future.
You know when you let go of trying to put the world in your basket and just let the day unfold as you walk with Jesus, the peace that passes understanding really washes over you!
Come on this journey with me to freedom and give up your desire to control. I dare you! xoxo
~Nikki
@jesusfreakmillionaire

God's Eye View of Marriage

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Next time you talk about your marriage being a black hole, it might not be a negative statement!

Space.com reported an emission of light as a byproduct of two black holes merging together and made a video simulation of what that would look like. As I gazed at the video, I couldn't help but think of my husband and I merging into one five years ago. As Paul said, marriage's many meanings and parallels truly are mysteries buried deep in the heart of God (Ephesians 5:32), but I believe this phenomenon we are stumbling across in the "space time' continuum may be a cosmic bread crumb. The two black holes swirl around each other for long periods of time, millions of years according to scientists, and then finally collide and become one. The news worthy component of this story is the fact that a light flash may be a result of this merger and is demanding more study. How beautiful to picture two children of God coming into each other's realm of influence, swirling around one another until finally they become one in the eyes of the Lord, just like these black holes. The result? A bright flash of light that draws others' attention: Almost like the Lord taps his knife on the side of his glass and says, watch them and observe how life is done when I am invited and involved. Scientists also report that black holes can become some of the brightest objects in the universe, not on their own accord, but because they draw massive amounts of light reflecting objects into their vortex. Wouldn't you love for your marriage to draw others' attention to the Lord and all his goodness, despite or even in spite of the fact we go through the same trials and heartaches as the rest of the world? I certainly do. I would pray that my 'merger' with my husband sent out a light flash of glory and continues to draw others close to us out of curiosity to see what makes us handle difficulties differently than most. We have not arrived yet, but I will continue to pray for the rest of my days. Oh lets join together in prayer for marriages around the world:

Father God,

We honor your goodness and your obvious bread crumbs you leave throughout creation for us to follow directly to your heart. We ask for your forgiveness when we focus on our trials and not on our Triumph; when we see our spouse through fallen eyes and not your loving, selfless eyes; when we make ourselves out to be a victim instead of standing on the fact that we are victors. I pray with all that is within me: Fashion our marriages world wide into black holes with deep wells anchored in you that draw others into our spheres to see you as you really are. May the stereotypes and misunderstandings of your character be cleared up and wiped out when the world comes face to face with your goodness through the lens of our marriages. In Jesus' sweet and holy name. AMEN.

 

 

For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made. Romans 1:20 (NIV)

31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:31-33 (NIV)

3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:3-5 (NIV)

 

Raising the White Flag

Talk about raising a standard...I'm talking about lowering a standard. Through counseling, I have come to realize that I have this imagined standard of what a Christian should look like: always on time, hardest worker that comes in early and leaves late, witnessing to every person that makes eye contact with, eating healthy, cleanest house, etc...add to this the hammer drop of knowing that if I don't meet this standard, I  am bring in dishonor to the name of Christ - sometimes not wanting to say I'm a Christian bc I didn't want people to think Jesus is as screwed up as me! Wow! What have I been thinking??? I'll tell you: condemnation! I couldn't even believe Romans 8:1 because of the phrase "walk according to the spirit". I seriously believed I should be "beat up" or condemned bc if I wasn't meeting my invisible standard then I must be walking according to the flesh! When in reality NO ONE - no not one is able to perfectly adhere to this standard! If they were, they would be Jesus!! Why could I preach that message to others and yet be blind to my opposite belief?

I  so thankful now that my eyes have been opened to the truth to see the word in a whole new light. I am so thankful that the heavy burden of the law has rolled off my back onto its proper place- Jesus. He has done all the heavy lifting! I get to walk in His grace and mercy with a smile. I have the priveledge of being the predestined one - to be adopted BY HIM, accepted just the way I am BY HIM, made holy and blameless BY HIM! Let's sing- What a priveledge to carry everything to God in prayer...

 I am working on tearing down this unreachable standard that the Old Testament called "the law", accepting the fact that God says I am righteous in Jesus (still blows my mind) and bloom into who my heart longs to be (a carbon copy of Jesus) by basking in His unconditional love. Just as an adoptive parent would have mercy on their new child that came from a home where they weren't groomed with the best character traits, Jesus knows we learned some bad habits when we walked as children of darkness. And as an adoptive parent would take on the role and responsibility of grooming the child into who they were meant to be, my Heavenly Father is doing the heavy lifting of changing me from glory to glory into who I was meant to be! I get to enjoy the ride!! Now if that isnt good gospel news, I don't know what is?? If that is the heart of our message, how could that not be a magnet for all those hungry for unconditional love??

Amen.

Watch Out! Danger Ahead!

Proverbs 22:3 - A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself...

We are all drawn to anointed people. To see a person flow in the power of the Kingdom of Heaven is something unforgettable and inspiring. However, if you begin to exalt gifts of the Spirit over fruits of the Spirit, you are asking for trouble; You are on your way to getting hurt by deep disappointment and disillusionment. You see, we often equate being anointed with godliness, but that just isn't the case. Just because you can flow in the gifts of the Spirit [notice- gifts are things given that are undeserved, regardless of performance] doesn't mean you 'earned' it by living holy. See what Paul has to say in the book of Romans concerning gifts of the Spirit: For the gifts and calling of God are irrevocable. Romans 11:29  In this context, Paul was talking about the Jewish people that had rejected Jesus as their Messiah. Although they were not being obedient to the gospel of Christ, their gifts and calling of God remained - these are 'irrevocable'. Google defines irrevocable  as 'not able to be changed, irreversible'.

So are anointed people obedient people? Not always. Do you have to be obedient to flow in your gifts? No. Do not be fooled into these two wrong camps of thought:

First Camp of Wrong Thinking: I am living right (obedient to the gospel) because I am anointed when I ...(whatever your gift is). This is not true. The enemy wants you to feel secure and avoid examining your life against the word of God because you are anointed. Don't be mislead - anointing does not equal holiness. If you have fallen into this trap of false security, I would urge you to talk with the Lord and ask Him to open your eyes to any weaknesses in your life. This is a good prayer to pray - guaranteed to be answered as it comes straight from the Word:

Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if their be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way. Psalm 139:23,24

Second Camp of Wrong Thinking: I and those around me are going to be better people (more godly & holy) if we surround ourselves with anointed people. Again - this is just not true. The only time this statement would be true is if the anointed people consistently bear fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control Galatians 5:22,23

Remember - anointed people can flow powerfully in the gifts of God, then immediately walk into a disobedient life full of works of the flesh: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambition, dissentions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries and the like Galatians 5:19,20

If you exalt the gifts of the Spirit or the anointing over the fruits of the Spirit, you may very well surround yourself with people that, because they are not walking in obedience to God's word, will hurt you and disappoint you. If you have had the wrong mindset that anointed people are holy people, then when you see those anointed people walking in an unholy life or making unholy decisions - you will become disillusioned. You believed the lie that surrounding yourself with anointed people will encourage & inspire you, when in reality, it is the fruit of the Spirit in people that will uplift you and encourage you consistently and faithfully. Can anointed people be filled with the fruit of the Spirit? Absolutely. Can anointed people lack the fruit of the Spirit? Absolutely. If you have been hurt by those that are anointed, but bear little or no fruit, I would encourage you to pray Solomon's prayer from 1 Kings 3:9:

Give your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people, that I may discern between good and evil.

May the Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn His face toward you and give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26